Life can be as good as you make it. Yes it can be better than what you are experiencing now. How? It won’t be easy and will take some hard work on your part.
Try to find something nice about someone you don’t care much for. I know you’re probably thinking right now, “Is she nuts?” I said some hard work. Yes, it’ll be hard to find anything nice, but maybe someday they will wear something you like (but won’t say because you don’t like that person). Bit your tongue! Say it! “I like your _____.” They will probably stop and stare at you wondering, “What do they want?”
It’s true. Okay, I’ll tell you about an experience I had one time. I worked at an office where this mini boss lady acted like the dragon of the lake (for real!). Being new, they filled me in on all the details – When she called you into her office it was like a doomsday summoning.
One day she just said, “I need someone to help.” No one moved and suddenly I found myself being ushered (or pushed) into her office, not knowing what to expect.
Then I remembered my mom telling me, “If you can’t say anything nice about someone, don’t say anything at all. But don’t lie.”
So looking at her, I was seeking something to compliment.
In the middle of our one-sided conversation (when she stopped for a second), I told her I liked her earrings. (I braced myself for a verbal blow, but it didn’t come! There was a moment of silence, and then a smile across her face. “Thank you,” she said. Then a tense lady became relaxed (me). After that she was very friendly and we got along fine. The girls in the office said, “What did you do?” “I just told her I liked her earrings,” I replied.
True story! So you see. Sometimes all it takes is a nice word; and sometimes just a smile. So there is hope. Just be nice. When someone is angry and grumbling, don’t add to it; throw water on it, by being nice!